Thursday, December 1, 2011

Need Help!

I am kind of like, very stressed about a situation.
Ruby now crawls out of her crib and walks to the door screaming crying because she doesn't want to go to sleep.
We hear her knocking on the door to get out, screaming.
She will fall asleep in my arms while I rock her and hold her for FOREVER and then finally when I stand up to lay her in her crib, she's wide awake, kicking and screaming "no no!" pointing to the rocking chair.

So after several days and nights of this, and an hour of trying today for the nap, I finally just laid her down, she started the whole red-face-no-breathing scream and I just looked her in the eye and told her "if you get out of your crib, you will get a spanking".

So that worked, she has obeyed and hasn't crawled out. But she's been crying for a long time. Like way longer than I normally allow. Like 30 minutes on and off. And right when I think she's fallen asleep I hear another moan and crying "mom? mom? mommyyyyy..."

I feel so bad for her. At first I thought "I guess she's just not tired, she must be changing her nap schedule" but then I let her out in the living room and she was SO cranky and pointed back in her room a few minutes later to the rocking chair and said "ni night". So that's an obvious clue.

She's exhausted.
But she won't go to sleep.

Somebody...please help me!
Do you remember this phase with your toddlers?
Are you going through it now?

8 comments:

Haley Galloway said...

Brice and I are having the WORST time ever with Sophie right now. When we were living with my parents Sophie slept in the room with us since they didn't have an extra bedroom for her. She was constantly coming into bed with us at night and now that we are in our own place she WILL NOT sleep in her own bed, in her own room. Last night we were at our wits end because she sleeps so bad in our bed! We are all crowded and it's just not fun. So I totally feel you on the frustration. I hope someone has some advice for you to help. We are going to have to try "crying it out" soon and I dread hearing her scream for me but it has to be done for our sanity.

WendyPierce said...

We have had pretty similar problems with Savannah with pretty much every change in her nap schedule, or sleeping arrangement or cold, or anything. Every so often I just have to be a hard nose about it. I'd say keep at what you're doing. Let her cry for as long as it takes - or for the length of her normal nap time. It wont hurt her and she'll learn that she can't manipulate you. We spank Savannah now if she gets out of bed too. Sometimes she gets gutsy and tests us - it usually only takes one nap time / bed time spanking to get her back on track. She also gets spankings now for crying and screaming from bed when she should be sleeping - but Ruby probably isn't old enough to get that yet. Savannah will do anything to stall or skip a nap, but she clearly still needs it! Hold your ground :) You're the momma, and you know what's best - even when she doesn't!

jessica kiehn said...

thank you wendy!!

Dennis said...

What Wendy said. Who is in charge here? In the long run, Ruby needs to know she doesn't have to worry about things because her parents are in charge.

jessica kiehn said...

Yes what Wendy said really helped. Last night was a charm. I rocked her for a little bit, laid her down, told her not to get out, she cries for about 10 mins and then like *that* she was out. So the more we stick to our guns the smoother this process is.going to get so pumped. Kids need boundaries and consistency, that's for sure.

Leslie said...

Stick with your guns was the very first thing I thought when I read this. You are doing what's right. Our whole schedule is based on consistency. Some people same I need to loosen up. I say they need to control their kids!!

Leslie said...

Well, not Thayer my kids don't get wild too!

Leslie said...

That's supposed to say that! Who's Thayer?

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Need Help!

I am kind of like, very stressed about a situation.
Ruby now crawls out of her crib and walks to the door screaming crying because she doesn't want to go to sleep.
We hear her knocking on the door to get out, screaming.
She will fall asleep in my arms while I rock her and hold her for FOREVER and then finally when I stand up to lay her in her crib, she's wide awake, kicking and screaming "no no!" pointing to the rocking chair.

So after several days and nights of this, and an hour of trying today for the nap, I finally just laid her down, she started the whole red-face-no-breathing scream and I just looked her in the eye and told her "if you get out of your crib, you will get a spanking".

So that worked, she has obeyed and hasn't crawled out. But she's been crying for a long time. Like way longer than I normally allow. Like 30 minutes on and off. And right when I think she's fallen asleep I hear another moan and crying "mom? mom? mommyyyyy..."

I feel so bad for her. At first I thought "I guess she's just not tired, she must be changing her nap schedule" but then I let her out in the living room and she was SO cranky and pointed back in her room a few minutes later to the rocking chair and said "ni night". So that's an obvious clue.

She's exhausted.
But she won't go to sleep.

Somebody...please help me!
Do you remember this phase with your toddlers?
Are you going through it now?

8 comments:

Haley Galloway said...

Brice and I are having the WORST time ever with Sophie right now. When we were living with my parents Sophie slept in the room with us since they didn't have an extra bedroom for her. She was constantly coming into bed with us at night and now that we are in our own place she WILL NOT sleep in her own bed, in her own room. Last night we were at our wits end because she sleeps so bad in our bed! We are all crowded and it's just not fun. So I totally feel you on the frustration. I hope someone has some advice for you to help. We are going to have to try "crying it out" soon and I dread hearing her scream for me but it has to be done for our sanity.

WendyPierce said...

We have had pretty similar problems with Savannah with pretty much every change in her nap schedule, or sleeping arrangement or cold, or anything. Every so often I just have to be a hard nose about it. I'd say keep at what you're doing. Let her cry for as long as it takes - or for the length of her normal nap time. It wont hurt her and she'll learn that she can't manipulate you. We spank Savannah now if she gets out of bed too. Sometimes she gets gutsy and tests us - it usually only takes one nap time / bed time spanking to get her back on track. She also gets spankings now for crying and screaming from bed when she should be sleeping - but Ruby probably isn't old enough to get that yet. Savannah will do anything to stall or skip a nap, but she clearly still needs it! Hold your ground :) You're the momma, and you know what's best - even when she doesn't!

jessica kiehn said...

thank you wendy!!

Dennis said...

What Wendy said. Who is in charge here? In the long run, Ruby needs to know she doesn't have to worry about things because her parents are in charge.

jessica kiehn said...

Yes what Wendy said really helped. Last night was a charm. I rocked her for a little bit, laid her down, told her not to get out, she cries for about 10 mins and then like *that* she was out. So the more we stick to our guns the smoother this process is.going to get so pumped. Kids need boundaries and consistency, that's for sure.

Leslie said...

Stick with your guns was the very first thing I thought when I read this. You are doing what's right. Our whole schedule is based on consistency. Some people same I need to loosen up. I say they need to control their kids!!

Leslie said...

Well, not Thayer my kids don't get wild too!

Leslie said...

That's supposed to say that! Who's Thayer?