Monday, March 29, 2010

Oh, Motherhood

Since having Ruby, I have become a FREAK about germs.
Just the word germs...yuck.

I'm not talking regular people caution towards germs, I'm telling you, I PANIC when anyone touches Ruby's
hands
face
mouth
neck/head
(Mainly the first 3)

But, I KNOW, I can't shield her from everything, nor do I want to make people feel like I don't like them because I won't let them stick their fingers in Ruby's mouth/rub her hands. But if that's means for qualifying if I'm nice or like you...then that's sad.
I'm telling you, a Momma Bear spirit has risen up in me where I could care less about people's feelings (something Kevin is leery about) and my greatest concern is my daughter's safety. She got sick at such a young age (3 or 4 days old) and 4 weeks later is STILL not breathing well at night when she's laid down because of it. And that just set something off in me that has made me do whatever it takes to protect her.

But it's very hard, I mean, how do you ask sweet Great Aunt Hazel "please don't do that to my baby" when she's just trying to love on her? IT IS VERY AWKWARD!
It just seems like common sense, to me, but not to everyone else, I'm learning.

I suppose this is one of the many new things I will have to face, being a Mommy. I'm going to have to get downright openly honest with people. My heart is in love, but I'm afraid I don't always come across that way.






you see this:

and i see this:




I'm a first-time Mom, give me a break!

6 comments:

Leslie McDaniel said...

Haha, you are funny. I thinks it's probably pretty normal to not want people all up in your baby's business. Is this post a hint to me for tomorrow's visit?!

Note to self: Do not spit in Ruby's mouth. Got it!

jessica kiehn said...

haha NOT a hint!! just ranting...
excited to see you! its been a month!

Brittany said...

Girl, I feel the same way! Sadly...I'm still that way after three kids. I am a complete germ-a-phob!!! And right now Paisley is having trouble sleeping flat because she has a stuffy nose...so sad.

On a good note though, I have found that if I wear my baby then people are less likely to get up in their face, touch them, kiss them, etc. Real handy. I also had a problem when I was at church for EVERYONE to want to hold my baby, and before I knew it...it was pass the baby. Made me SO nervous. Another good reason to carry them...people are less likely to ask to hold them.

So you are NOT alone! haha!

leslie said...

You are so precious! I remember being just like you as a first time mom, so protective. Then I learn about how exposure to germs helps babies build antibodies and immunity (not that I think people should stick their fingers in Ruby's mouth). Anyhow, fast forward to the fourth son. I've been at the mothering thing for 11 years, and I'm pretty darn good at it! My mom is visiting, baby #4 crawling around the kitchen whining & crying as I cook dinner. Rather than putting him in his high chair, washing his hands, putting on his bib, and pouring Cheerios into a bowl (as I would have done with son #1), to my mom's dismay I tossed a handful of Cheerios on the floor and he was instantly satisfied! Think about it, babies crawl on the floor all day long where people walk (and sometimes animals), and then they put their hands in their mouth. Each child made me relax more. But I get you!

KimKlip71 said...

I know the germ thing is tough...just wait until she is a toddler and wants to touch bathroom floors (YUCK) and other germ infested places! Remember exposure to germs can be good and you are giving her those good antibodies you are helping her fight those germs...but I know what you mean when you feel so bad when she is all stuffed up. Some saline nose drops, a good aspirator and cool mist humidifier, and letting her sleep somewhat elevated can help. You can always carry around some hand sanitizer and make people take a few squirts before they hold her and ask people not to touch her face and hands? I always tell Meghan she can look a baby but not touch them.

Heather said...

JESSICA!!!!!!!! How am I just now reading your blog AFTER Ruby was born?! Okay, I've been marathon-reading it this morning trying to catch up, hahaha. BUT I wanted to say I was the exact same way with Bronson about germs. Aaron and I were both totally up front with relatives about germs. I wore Bronson in the baby bjorn carrier pretty much everywhere I went with him for the first 6-8 months of his life just because I felt like having him on my chest was a less likely spot for people (strangers) to want to reach over to touch him. And as Bro got older, we taught him about germs and handwashing, etc. I agree that germs and bacteria are good for building up immunities, however it's hard when your baby is so young. Now that Bro is 4 he is the kid in his pre-K class telling the other kids exactly what germs look like (thanks google! and Discovery Health), what they do to your body, how they make you sick, etc. Haha, it's funny but he knows his stuff. Kids will stick their hands everywhere (especially if you tell them not too! haha. They really are so smart and just need someone to explain WHY.) and try to see what/how much they can fit in their mouth, etc. It's a fun game and with some parental patience and guidance we can help teach about the germs, but also not freak the kids out. Bronson loves picking up earthworms that he sees after a rain on the driveway and transferring them to his veggie garden "because the worm poop is good for the plants". Kids learn pretty quickly about germs and what germs are okay, what's not okay - we just have to keep them informed. Kudos to you, Jessica, for being a wonderful, on-top-of-it mom! :) The blog is beauitful and it makes me so happy to read about your adventures with Ruby James!

Monday, March 29, 2010

Oh, Motherhood

Since having Ruby, I have become a FREAK about germs.
Just the word germs...yuck.

I'm not talking regular people caution towards germs, I'm telling you, I PANIC when anyone touches Ruby's
hands
face
mouth
neck/head
(Mainly the first 3)

But, I KNOW, I can't shield her from everything, nor do I want to make people feel like I don't like them because I won't let them stick their fingers in Ruby's mouth/rub her hands. But if that's means for qualifying if I'm nice or like you...then that's sad.
I'm telling you, a Momma Bear spirit has risen up in me where I could care less about people's feelings (something Kevin is leery about) and my greatest concern is my daughter's safety. She got sick at such a young age (3 or 4 days old) and 4 weeks later is STILL not breathing well at night when she's laid down because of it. And that just set something off in me that has made me do whatever it takes to protect her.

But it's very hard, I mean, how do you ask sweet Great Aunt Hazel "please don't do that to my baby" when she's just trying to love on her? IT IS VERY AWKWARD!
It just seems like common sense, to me, but not to everyone else, I'm learning.

I suppose this is one of the many new things I will have to face, being a Mommy. I'm going to have to get downright openly honest with people. My heart is in love, but I'm afraid I don't always come across that way.






you see this:

and i see this:




I'm a first-time Mom, give me a break!

6 comments:

Leslie McDaniel said...

Haha, you are funny. I thinks it's probably pretty normal to not want people all up in your baby's business. Is this post a hint to me for tomorrow's visit?!

Note to self: Do not spit in Ruby's mouth. Got it!

jessica kiehn said...

haha NOT a hint!! just ranting...
excited to see you! its been a month!

Brittany said...

Girl, I feel the same way! Sadly...I'm still that way after three kids. I am a complete germ-a-phob!!! And right now Paisley is having trouble sleeping flat because she has a stuffy nose...so sad.

On a good note though, I have found that if I wear my baby then people are less likely to get up in their face, touch them, kiss them, etc. Real handy. I also had a problem when I was at church for EVERYONE to want to hold my baby, and before I knew it...it was pass the baby. Made me SO nervous. Another good reason to carry them...people are less likely to ask to hold them.

So you are NOT alone! haha!

leslie said...

You are so precious! I remember being just like you as a first time mom, so protective. Then I learn about how exposure to germs helps babies build antibodies and immunity (not that I think people should stick their fingers in Ruby's mouth). Anyhow, fast forward to the fourth son. I've been at the mothering thing for 11 years, and I'm pretty darn good at it! My mom is visiting, baby #4 crawling around the kitchen whining & crying as I cook dinner. Rather than putting him in his high chair, washing his hands, putting on his bib, and pouring Cheerios into a bowl (as I would have done with son #1), to my mom's dismay I tossed a handful of Cheerios on the floor and he was instantly satisfied! Think about it, babies crawl on the floor all day long where people walk (and sometimes animals), and then they put their hands in their mouth. Each child made me relax more. But I get you!

KimKlip71 said...

I know the germ thing is tough...just wait until she is a toddler and wants to touch bathroom floors (YUCK) and other germ infested places! Remember exposure to germs can be good and you are giving her those good antibodies you are helping her fight those germs...but I know what you mean when you feel so bad when she is all stuffed up. Some saline nose drops, a good aspirator and cool mist humidifier, and letting her sleep somewhat elevated can help. You can always carry around some hand sanitizer and make people take a few squirts before they hold her and ask people not to touch her face and hands? I always tell Meghan she can look a baby but not touch them.

Heather said...

JESSICA!!!!!!!! How am I just now reading your blog AFTER Ruby was born?! Okay, I've been marathon-reading it this morning trying to catch up, hahaha. BUT I wanted to say I was the exact same way with Bronson about germs. Aaron and I were both totally up front with relatives about germs. I wore Bronson in the baby bjorn carrier pretty much everywhere I went with him for the first 6-8 months of his life just because I felt like having him on my chest was a less likely spot for people (strangers) to want to reach over to touch him. And as Bro got older, we taught him about germs and handwashing, etc. I agree that germs and bacteria are good for building up immunities, however it's hard when your baby is so young. Now that Bro is 4 he is the kid in his pre-K class telling the other kids exactly what germs look like (thanks google! and Discovery Health), what they do to your body, how they make you sick, etc. Haha, it's funny but he knows his stuff. Kids will stick their hands everywhere (especially if you tell them not too! haha. They really are so smart and just need someone to explain WHY.) and try to see what/how much they can fit in their mouth, etc. It's a fun game and with some parental patience and guidance we can help teach about the germs, but also not freak the kids out. Bronson loves picking up earthworms that he sees after a rain on the driveway and transferring them to his veggie garden "because the worm poop is good for the plants". Kids learn pretty quickly about germs and what germs are okay, what's not okay - we just have to keep them informed. Kudos to you, Jessica, for being a wonderful, on-top-of-it mom! :) The blog is beauitful and it makes me so happy to read about your adventures with Ruby James!