Thursday, March 25, 2010

As of right now, I do not believe spoiling an infant is possible. I say "as of right now" because I am humble enough to say that for me, parenting is all learn-as-you-go and as soon as you are so SURE of something, it changes. And you need to be flexible if you're going to be a good parent, in my opinion. Steady on and sure, but flexible. A hard balance to find, apart from the Spirit.

So here I am, awake at 3:25am, rocking my sweet baby girl back to sleep. Some would argue that this is dangerous, that I am training her that all she has to do is cry, Mom will come pick her up and soothe her back to sleep. And you know what? That's exactly what I'm showing her. I want her to know that she is in a safe place. That come hell or high water, my parents are always, ALWAYS there for me. This will create a more independent child later on, who knows who she is and can be confident in that, because her base foundation was a nurtured one.

So here's to however long this season in our life is...I gladly take it on with joy, and know that greatness is on the other side of it all.

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

AMMMEEENNNNNN!
Amen. Amen. Amen Jessica.
Shannon

Brittany said...

I couldn't agree more Jessica!

Larsen Family said...

Enjoy those rocks, they soon leave you behind!

Leslie McDaniel said...

I don't believe you can spoil a newborn baby either. That's why we didn't start Babywise with Miller until he was a little older. But even then, we never let him lay there and cry all by himself.

I am a strong believer in self soothing at a certain point, but not 3 weeks! So enjoy your time with her, even if it's in the middle of the night. It goes by way to fast!

The Queen of Chaotica said...
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Anonymous said...

Babywise is a misnomer, it's BabyDUMB.

Leslie McDaniel said...

Anonymous,
Have you read the book, talked to anyone who did it, have any personal experience yourself with the concept?

We did Babywise with our baby and it was WONDERFUL.

There is no right or wrong way to raise a baby. Just as long as it works for both mom and dad and baby.

Leslie McDaniel said...

Wow, I was just reading these comments here, and it's surprising.

I totally understand that Babywise wouldn't work for everyone, but it's so rude to comment on someone else's parenting style in a negative way. Especially in this setting where we obviously have a mutal friend.

To think that there is only ONE way to raise every baby is so simple minded.

jessica kiehn said...

I have to agree with Leslie. Every family is different, every baby is different, and there is no blanket right or wrong for all babies. I see the arguments against Babywise, but I certainly wouldn't call it BabyDumb!

millison said...

I couldn't agree with you more.

leslie said...

You are so wise, Jessica. You are teaching your baby to TRUST. When she trusts you, and knows you will be there for her, she will rest more easily in the months and years to come. Keep it up!

Norma Jean said...

Hi, well I don't know what basewise is but nurturing love never fails. I never used a schedule and always met their needs when they needed it. As they grow and explore there are safety issues in teaching them no. But everyone needs a hug more often than not. Enjoy every moment, it does pass quickly.

katysears said...

i am totally with leslie with the babywise sucess story! it has worked wonders with my 2 year old and my 5 month old. i agree there is a balance while abiding by it. i also agree that there must be mutal respect and support for moms who agree or disagree on how they comfort/ feed/ raise/ discipline and teach their kids. who are WE to judge and belittle each other? i think the best way is to share your personal information about parenting IF ASKED YOUR OPINION!!! other than that... dont just go around blabbing to every mom you run into that YOUR kid is the best, and YOU ARE doing it wrong, and THATS NOT RIGHT. if we as moms dont support each other, then who will?

jenny galloway said...

You are definitely right Jessica! Babies are learning trust in the first many months of their life. We didn't let the boys self sooth until they were about 7 almost 8 months old. Everyone has different methods and again, you are right, you learn as you go definitely! The Father has entrusted YOU as Ruby's mother because YOU are the only woman for this job. You're awesome, love you sister!

Heather said...

Love this!

Thursday, March 25, 2010

As of right now, I do not believe spoiling an infant is possible. I say "as of right now" because I am humble enough to say that for me, parenting is all learn-as-you-go and as soon as you are so SURE of something, it changes. And you need to be flexible if you're going to be a good parent, in my opinion. Steady on and sure, but flexible. A hard balance to find, apart from the Spirit.

So here I am, awake at 3:25am, rocking my sweet baby girl back to sleep. Some would argue that this is dangerous, that I am training her that all she has to do is cry, Mom will come pick her up and soothe her back to sleep. And you know what? That's exactly what I'm showing her. I want her to know that she is in a safe place. That come hell or high water, my parents are always, ALWAYS there for me. This will create a more independent child later on, who knows who she is and can be confident in that, because her base foundation was a nurtured one.

So here's to however long this season in our life is...I gladly take it on with joy, and know that greatness is on the other side of it all.

15 comments:

Anonymous said...

AMMMEEENNNNNN!
Amen. Amen. Amen Jessica.
Shannon

Brittany said...

I couldn't agree more Jessica!

Larsen Family said...

Enjoy those rocks, they soon leave you behind!

Leslie McDaniel said...

I don't believe you can spoil a newborn baby either. That's why we didn't start Babywise with Miller until he was a little older. But even then, we never let him lay there and cry all by himself.

I am a strong believer in self soothing at a certain point, but not 3 weeks! So enjoy your time with her, even if it's in the middle of the night. It goes by way to fast!

The Queen of Chaotica said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
Anonymous said...

Babywise is a misnomer, it's BabyDUMB.

Leslie McDaniel said...

Anonymous,
Have you read the book, talked to anyone who did it, have any personal experience yourself with the concept?

We did Babywise with our baby and it was WONDERFUL.

There is no right or wrong way to raise a baby. Just as long as it works for both mom and dad and baby.

Leslie McDaniel said...

Wow, I was just reading these comments here, and it's surprising.

I totally understand that Babywise wouldn't work for everyone, but it's so rude to comment on someone else's parenting style in a negative way. Especially in this setting where we obviously have a mutal friend.

To think that there is only ONE way to raise every baby is so simple minded.

jessica kiehn said...

I have to agree with Leslie. Every family is different, every baby is different, and there is no blanket right or wrong for all babies. I see the arguments against Babywise, but I certainly wouldn't call it BabyDumb!

millison said...

I couldn't agree with you more.

leslie said...

You are so wise, Jessica. You are teaching your baby to TRUST. When she trusts you, and knows you will be there for her, she will rest more easily in the months and years to come. Keep it up!

Norma Jean said...

Hi, well I don't know what basewise is but nurturing love never fails. I never used a schedule and always met their needs when they needed it. As they grow and explore there are safety issues in teaching them no. But everyone needs a hug more often than not. Enjoy every moment, it does pass quickly.

katysears said...

i am totally with leslie with the babywise sucess story! it has worked wonders with my 2 year old and my 5 month old. i agree there is a balance while abiding by it. i also agree that there must be mutal respect and support for moms who agree or disagree on how they comfort/ feed/ raise/ discipline and teach their kids. who are WE to judge and belittle each other? i think the best way is to share your personal information about parenting IF ASKED YOUR OPINION!!! other than that... dont just go around blabbing to every mom you run into that YOUR kid is the best, and YOU ARE doing it wrong, and THATS NOT RIGHT. if we as moms dont support each other, then who will?

jenny galloway said...

You are definitely right Jessica! Babies are learning trust in the first many months of their life. We didn't let the boys self sooth until they were about 7 almost 8 months old. Everyone has different methods and again, you are right, you learn as you go definitely! The Father has entrusted YOU as Ruby's mother because YOU are the only woman for this job. You're awesome, love you sister!

Heather said...

Love this!